GRIEF UNTANGLED: The Death of a Parent

The day my dad’s body was placed in the ground something shifted in my tired soul. Words fail in describing something unseen, but it hasn’t left me. 

My dad’s death would cause pain and bring new life. 

The shift is not something that can be named, exactly. 

Maybe if you’ve lost someone close to you, you can relate. 

What I’m learning is, pain would like to tip the scales and paralyze us. The sad, sad reality is, that for some, pain is winning. This is not what our loved ones would want for us. 

As waves of pain keep coming, this new life I am experiencing has been somewhat of a surprise. I suppose in some form, it’s reflective of death and resurrection. For a seed to die, is for a seed to come back to life bearing fruit, through us.

I want to invite you to the sacred places I would go when helping my dad prepare for eternity. I want to stir up your heart to think of eternity. You now have the opportunity to soak up all the meaning and purpose you possibly can, as a significant loss forever changes our life. We get to decide to some degree what those changes are and how we will face them.

There were nights when caring for my dad that God would whisper tender mercies to my heart right the midst of a wrestling match with Him. If you could picture it, He had hold of one of my dad’s arms and and I was holding to the other, begging Him not to take him from me. The harder I would fasten my grip, the more pain and anxiety I would experience. As I cried out to God to help me release my dad, help came. Help still comes. I still need help, and I am not afraid to ask for it.

Our team at Grief Untangled invites you to ask for help. Ask afraid if you need to. We will understand. 

Deep loss is hard and can be so very lonely. It’s our prayer we can help you understand that you’re not alone and your tears matter. Whether it’s the loss of a loved one or any other kind of loss, we have created this community to walk with you on your healing journey. 

“Two people are better than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help.” Ecclesiastes 4:9